the LGBTQA resource center made a lil typo, i fixed it
*rolls eyes into oblivion*
And DONT erase ally either!
no just erase the ally
erase all the ally
being an ally is not a sexual orientation or a way of life that is discriminated against
so just erase the ally
Being an ally is like being a parent at a sporting event. Like yes great, you know those people on the field and you care about them but you are not playing the game you are not the one who is going to get hurt you have no stakes you personally do not ‘win’ anything so changing the A to ally is like a parent running out onto a field after a big game, ripping the trophy away from the child and being like:
LOOK AT ME! LOOK AT ME! I WON! I WON THE GAME! ME IT WAS ALL ME YOU GUYS COULDN’T HAVE DONE IT WITHOUT ME!!!!!!
and that is just plain silly.
That’s not what being an ally is like at all.
It shouldnt be like that, no, youre right. But how often is it true with the special snowflake allies?
I don’t know. I haven’t seen one of them yet, honestly. I mean, presumably they exist, because every cause attracts such people, but I’ve never actually encountered one.
if people really want me to, i can stop being an ally.
It’s not that difficult to join side and stand strong with 80% of the world, though it dose go against my beliefs…but if I’m not wanted, i won’t bother people who want to stay in groups defined by sexuality…
Though I did think that we were fighting against that kind of grouping, for equality and sych….but what do I know…I’m heterosexual so my opinion clearly don’t matter
It is okay to be an ally, allies just don’t get to be in the acronym especially over asexuals. While allies occasionally experience bigotry due to their support of LGBTQIA rights, the brunt of the discrimination still falls on people who aren’t heterosexual — who are sometimes so marginalized that people completely forget to put them in the acronym.
Being a good ally requires not making the cause about you and your feelings to the exclusion of the people you are being an ally to. Social movements cannot be about protecting the delicate feelings of allies over the basic cause of human rights and social equality for the oppressed. This is not a back-patting struggle, it is a struggle against serious and continuing bigotry, inequality, and oppression.
And “ally” isn’t an identity, it is a set of actions. You don’t win an ally trophy and then get cookies and a trophy proving your immutable allyship. Being an ally requires doing work. Lots of people forget that and claim to be allies while distracting from the goal of the work by requiring the people they’re “helping” to constantly thank them and focus on their feelings, getting angry and even mean while withdrawing their support when anyone tells them “hey, look, this isn’t all about you." So if you want to be a good ally, you might also want to recognize that bad allies are a thing and skip the #notallallies comments.
Movements want allies. Allies are important. But they’re not the reason for social justice movements or the center of these movements, nor should they be.